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Last night I found it difficult to fall asleep, so I left the bed, went downstairs, had some wine and read.

After a bit of reading, I felt relaxed enough to return to bed. I must have fallen asleep nearly immediately. However, in my dream I didn't return to bed, in fact in my dream, the part that I remember most, was getting stuck at the top of the stairs, which were blocked by a gate of some sort.

It was dark, I was blocked, I was crying and I couldn't advance any further.

What did it all mean? What was my mind trying to tell me?

Still not sure, but in my free pages of today's journal I wrote down the main elements of the dream, advance, dark, blocked, crying (from fear) and asked myself what did all those elements mean to me?

Obviously, my mind is telling me I am some how blocked from growing, but what am I blocked from? But how can I unblock myself and get passed the gate (which isn't really much of a gate)?  I still don't know all the answers, however, simply writing down the elements and asking myself questions has taken the fear factor out and given me a direction to pursue. It may take me days (and days of dreams) to figure out what the issue is, and it may take days for me to figure out how to find a solution to the problem my dreams are presenting me.

When a dream proves particularly troublesome, write it down and pull out the remembered elements, as I have done above: - dark, blocked, crying, couldn't advance - and ask yourself questions about it till each element the answers are clear to you - what is the obstacle I'm facing in life now? Keep asking questions until you feel you have the beginning of an answer as to the cause and then work on the solution. 

And obviously, once the solutions are clear, begin to implement them.

 


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Never surrender! Never give up on your dreams! Keep fighting! And all such similar maxims are in fact poor advice.

Everything is situational.

Of course, I'm not suggesting one never dream or always give up on a dream.  But what have your dreams been over time? As a child your dream may have gone something like this: I'm going to be a basketball player and an astronaut and and firefighter and a dinosaur! 

And likely you meant every word of that. Of course, dinosaur is impossible, and as you aged, perhaps one or more of the above was let go as well.

Should you give up on your dreams? When they no longer serve their purpose, of course. Or when you come to the realization that the are unobtainable at the present time, yes. Let them go. 

They no longer work for you, no longer are helpful. 

Sometimes though, a dream is good but not for now. It is something you can come back to in the future, or something to pursue in a different fashion, for example, as a hobby instead of a career.

Letting go of dreams, changing your dreams, setting aside your dreams, are all viable options.

Here are some questions for your journal:

  • What dreams, aspirations, goals, etc. have you let sail? 
  • Why did you let the dreams go?
  • How did you feel about letting them go at the time?
  • How do you feel now?
  • What did the dream mean to you then and what does it mean to you now?
  • Would you still like to pursue that particular dream?
  • Can you revise the dream in anyway to make it workable now?
  • What stopped you from the pursuit of that particular dream and what is stopping you from pursing the dream now?
Have fun journaling.

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